This list of Workplace Communication FAQs and answers will grow over time with my contributions and yours.
If you don't find the question that applies to your specific situation, just send your question in, I'll answer it separately and add it here.
If you prefer to do this anonymously, just leave the name and location fields blank.
Remember Woody Allen's quote "80% of success is showing up". Paraphrasing that: "80% of getting a raise is asking for it".
Before, you were a co-worker and perhaps a friend, now you're a boss and perhaps can remain a friend.
These are separate roles that can't be played at the same time. So play the role of supervisor/manager (firm, direct, fair, and so forth) while at work. If you're also friends, be just a friend during off hours, don't start bossing your friends around while socializing.
Even if you can handle the change, your former peers may not have an easy time with the transition. Some may feel jealous about your promotion and think they were more deserving than you. Some may start anticipating that power is going to your head and behave accordingly.
A good step to take is to have an open conversation with them, where you let them know that roles have changed but that won't change who you're and who they are. Ask for their support and let them know you plan to support them as well.
Check out this article on Upward Communication to learn more about the various types of interactions that one has with a manager, learn about where interactions can go South and how to straighten them.
While there is not a guarantee that you can stop a co-worker from spreading rumors about you, you can still try. You don't lose anything by trying and you may get the rumors to stop.
Check out this article for more specific ideas on how to stop rumors at work.
A big factor that helps you stop rumors is the authority you may have over the rumor mongers. If you don't have any, you can seek the help of your manager. He has an interest in keeping the rumor mill under control, so he may be a good person to enlist in helping you stop your coworkers from spreading rumors about you.
It's pretty dicey to tell on team members, but it's just as dicey to cover up for them. You end up resentful and self-righteous.
You have to confront the team member that is not pulling her weight and let her know that you were covering up for her but you can no longer do so, because you're starting to resent it.
Let her know you want to preserve the relationship, but not at the cost of covering up for her. Ask her to take responsibility for her part in the team.
This confrontation frees you up to do whatever you think is the right next step. It also frees her up to step up to her responsibilities as a member of the team.
You don't have a way to know what her reaction might be, but you have done your part.
This is a tough question because there's no way to know if your boss is indeed blocking you and his reasons for doing it. You'd have to be 100% certain that your boss is "blocking" you before you go his boss and ask for a promotion.
To find out, ask your boss for direct feedback on your performance, and where you stand in the organization. Tell him that you'd like to advance and need to know what it would take to do so. Tell him you want to know what exactly you need to do to get promoted.
If his answers are vague regarding your performance and what you need to do to get ahead, there's is a possibility he may be blocking you. Still not 100% certainty.
If his answers are specific as to what you need to do to get a promotion, then it's unlikely your boss is "blocking" you. Don't go to your boss' boss, just heed what you boss is telling to get ahead.
Do you have a question about communication in the workplace? Send it in!
Click below to see questions from other visitors to this page...
Fear of Losing Job for Helping Friends Find Jobs
Question: I Wish To Help But I'm Scared If I Get In Loss I am working in a marketing based job. It requires to convince the customers to buy the product. …
Question about someone going “over my head to our boss” Our media buyer/planner went over my head to our boss (owner) of the company with some complaints …
ANGRY CUSTOMERS IN THE AUTOMOTIVE INDUSTRY
Question Regarding Angry Customers I AM A SERVICE ADVISOR AND I AM UNABLE TO HANDLE HANDLE AN ANGRY CUSTOMER Imelda's Response If I knew …
sending the wrong signals during conflict/communication
Hi, I keep having a re-occuring problem. My co-workers interpret my communication as aggressive or hostile whereas I am just naturally passionate and …
director of a department
Question about Chain of Command My employee is starting to boss me, what do i say? Imelda's Response Your employee is breaking the rules of …
Retirement Gift Etiquette
I'm a CXO at a medium size company. I need some help with retirement gift etiquette. My boss is retiring in a month and I want to give him a memorable …
I am struggling with delegating work, and not being swamped with so much that ends up affecting my personal life. Thank you for your wise words. -Karla …
What writing skills do entry level employees need?
I teach communications courses and I want to provide students with real-world examples of the kinds of writing skills they will need on their first job …
How Can I Incentivize My Team Without Using Money?
As a supervisor, I don't have the budget available for me to give raises for "good work" or extra effort. I want to be able to in some way reward those …
My Boss Is Failing At His Job. How Can I Help Him Before He Gets Canned?
My boss took the job because he wanted a raise. The company gave him the job because there were no other applicants. He is inexperienced, disorganized …
What to do when there is a communication gap with boss because of language differences? I have a Chinese boss who understands English but misunderstands …
Personal Space: How Close is Too Close? Not rated yet
How close is too close for one-on-one communication? Is there a general rule or recommendation on how much "personal space" you should allow for effective …
My peer thinks he's my boss Not rated yet
Question about a peer acting like a boss My peer is acting like he's my boss. We are at the same seniority level and both carry some different responsibilities. …
They Won't Listen Not rated yet
I have spent most of my life in the construction trades. I have worked for several small construction companies and owned a couple. The communication …
Lack of Communication Not rated yet
WOW! What a wonderful site. Very insightful and informative. It's funny that I stumbled across this site today. Mine isn't really a question, more a …
Read more about Workplace Communication